Setting the Record Straight

Over the years, while I have counseled and ministered to married couples in the body of the Messiah, I have noticed a trend of misinformation. Recently, I was being certified as a Marriage Mentor with AACC (American Association of Christian Counselors) when I was reminded of a statistic that is rather disappointing. It was mentioned several times that the Barna Group (George Barna, a Christian statistician) has discovered that divorces in the Church have risen higher then those that do not attend church.

The national average for divorces in America is about 50%, while the Church is experiencing more divorces within its doors than the "world." This means that 1 out of every 2 marriages are experiencing divorce, while the "Church’s" average is about 10 to 15% higher.

What statisticians fail to report is that the percentage of people that come to churches are people in crises. For example, it would be safe to assume that residents of hospitals across the country are more sick rather than healthy people. It would be frivolous to report that hospitals are for the healthy instead of the sick; it just doesn’t make any sense. Therefore, while churches across the country may be experiencing more divorces than the "world," it would be erroneous to assume that churches are made up of completely whole and spiritually sound people. Yes, people can be saints without being perfect; however, it should be noted that only those who recognize the need for a Savior and healing’s of all types are usually the people who attend church in hopes of becoming more accountable believers. And, many couples that are struggling with their marriages are seeking godly advice and comfort, which is why many begin to attend church. Furthermore, the need for support and encouragement is often a positive when it comes to churches.

So, while statistics show percentages and are fairly accurate, they do not show what takes place behind the scenes. The negative factor to churches, however, is that often those that come in for healing usually, in-turn, cast disbelief and judgment on those that are seeking the same kind of healing. Why does that happen? Why is it that people come into the Church as sinners, receive forgiveness, are set free, and then begin to judge those outside of the Church or others within the Church? Could it be that we are all still sinners in need of a Savior? The answer is, Yes!

And, although the Church is filled with sinners, more sinners will be led to the doors . . . some with the need for repentance, others turning back to their foundation of belief from childhood. Either way, the Church attracts those in need, and with that often comes broken marriages, separations, angry people, judgmental individuals, and healthy people. It should be no surprise that the Church may experience more divorces than the "world." It should expect it. . . for the world is still in need of Yeshua the Messiah. So, the next time someone tries to put shame on you or the Body of Christ for being worse than sinners in regard to marriages, tell them that the "Church" should be attracting people in dire-straights. And, along with that comes divorces and all sorts of ungodly things. When someone comes to salvation in Yeshua, his life is not all-of-a-sudden perfect, nor is it going to fall into place. It takes work, faith, and righteous decision making to change your outward appearance and failures to match what Yahweh is doing on the inside, and, yes, He will help with the outer shell, but He won’t do everything. You have to fight for your marriage and rise above the statistics. Yahweh is on your side. He invented marriage. So, love one another as Messiah has loved you.

 

Shalom,

Adrian A. Bernal, M.T.S.

Copyright 2008, All Rights Reserved.

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About adrianabernal

I committed my life to the Messiah, Yeshua in 1985. In 1987 I attended bible college in Dallas, TX., where I discovered my rich heritage as a Spanish Jew (Sephardic). Like most Sephardim, I was raised more Catholic than Jewish--I can thank the Spanish Inquisition for that--however, we were for the most part not a religious family. I eventually graduated and have continued on to obtain the Master of Theological Studies (M.T.S.) in Biblical Counseling and Jewish Studies, and a Doctor of Ministry (D.Min.) in Jewish Studies with Columbia Evangelical Seminary, in Washington State. I have pastored both churches and Messianic congregations since 1993. Currently, I travel and speak at several churches, synagogues, and Messianic congregations in Wyoming, Idaho, Oregon, and Colorado. For the past 26 years I've engrossed myself in studies on Judaism, Messianic Judaism, and Christianity. In doing so, I have an extensive background in all three disciplines, which gives me a balanced perspective on the complete Bible, both the Tanakh (O.T) and the B'rit Chadashah (N.T.). I have been married for 25 years to my wife Jennifer, and I have three wonderful children: Nathan, Adam, and Rebekah. I am also a golf teaching professional and enjoy fellowship with my Jewish and Christian brothers and family. If you'd like me to come and speak at your place of worship, please do not hesitate to email me or call. Thank you.
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2 Responses to Setting the Record Straight

  1. Pastor says:

    Greetings, my friend,
    Wow! But that really does not suprise me!
    God is so good! This is another day that the Lord has made, we should be glad and rejoice
    in it! Just out visiting and thought I’d stop by and say hello! Pray all is well with you and yours.
    In <Christ>< Pastor Winston

    • Adrian A. Bernal says:

      Thank you pastor Winston. I appreciate your kind words. Sorry it took me a while to respond, but apparently I am not getting updates for when people respond. Blessings be upon you.

      Shalom,
      Adrian

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